Bereavement, loss and grief are significant experiences that can affect children and young people in different and sometimes complex ways. Loss may relate to the death of a loved one, but can also include family breakdown, separation, care experience, or other major life changes. For some children, these experiences can impact emotional wellbeing, behaviour, relationships, and engagement with learning.
For Child Protection Coordinators (CPCs), it is important to recognise that while grief is a natural process, it can also increase vulnerability and, in some cases, intersect with safeguarding concerns.
Understanding Grief in Children and Young People
Children may respond to loss in a variety of ways, including:
- Changes in mood, behaviour, or presentation
- Withdrawal or increased anxiety
- Anger, distress, or difficulty regulating emotions
- Regression or changes in developmental behaviours
- Reduced attendance or engagement with school
Responses may not always be immediate and can re-emerge over time, particularly around anniversaries or significant events.
Supporting Children and Young People
In line with Getting it Right for Every Child, support should be child-centred and responsive to individual needs. CPCs should ensure that:
- Staff are aware of bereavement and loss affecting pupils (where appropriate)
- Safe, supportive environments are in place for children to express their feelings
- Pastoral support systems are responsive and flexible
- Communication with families is sensitive and appropriate
- Individualised support plans are considered where needed
When Grief Becomes a Safeguarding Concern
While most children will be supported through grief with appropriate care, CPCs should remain alert to:
- Prolonged or escalating distress impacting wellbeing
- Risk-taking behaviours or self-harm indicators
- Neglect of basic needs following a bereavement
- Changes in caregiving arrangements that may increase risk
Where concerns arise, they should be recorded and responded to in line with the National Guidance for Child Protection in Scotland.
Partnership Working and Support Services
Effective support may involve collaboration with:
- Educational psychology services
- School nursing and health professionals
- Bereavement support organisations
- Social work where appropriate
CPCs should be aware of local supports available within Dumfries and Galloway to ensure timely access to appropriate help.
A Compassionate, Trauma-Informed Approach
Bereavement and loss require a sensitive, trauma-informed response. By supporting staff to understand the impact of grief and respond with empathy and consistency, CPCs help ensure that children and young people feel safe, understood, and supported during difficult times.
