Children do not need to hear  “yes your pretty, yes your thin, you are beautiful”!

I understand by replying with this positive response as a teacher, parent or older sibling you believe such a positive response will generate a positive response from the child. These replies are fear based replies its the opposing view of the child who claims they are Ugly or fat.

We as teachers, parents or any other adults need to provide children with an abundance based response. Children need to be told to accept who they are. YOU are more that your prettiness, you are more than your ugliness, more than fatness.

YOU ARE MORE THAN THE FORM and this is the message we should be providing our children with, that they are more than the form. This is so important as if we link the child with a quality of a form and then that form does not manifest. E.g if we tell a child “your hair is so pretty,” and one day all there hair gets cut off or falls out; that Childs whole perception of themselves dies. Everything that child thought was important about themselves is ruined.

The self is eternal it is more than the form.

A lot of adults are so worried and try to wrap there children in cotton wool claiming that they are pretty or thin; adults want to protect their children from the struggles of life and they believe that by saying these things to children they are protecting them from such struggles and making life easier for them, But there is no escaping life struggles, but we can teach children to embrace that within the struggle there is strength and that strength is true beauty.

*All views are my own and my opinions can be backed up by Dr S. Tsabary; her book can be found here hyperlink .