Encourage your child to get involved in making decisions about things that affect them e.g. what you do at the weekends, what you have for dinner etc.  This will make them feel involved in family life and that their ideas matter.  If their suggestions are not possible, be honest and discuss them and where possible, incorporate some of their suggestions.  Use phrases including:

“So what do you think we should do?”

“What don’t you try that on your own this time?”

“The choice is yours.”