If a child talks to you about domestic abuse it’s important, where possible, to speak to the child in a safe, quiet and comfortable environment away from distractions and interruptions[1]. They have likely chosen you because they trust you and feel safe telling you.
It is important to follow your establishments safeguarding and child protection procedures.
- Listen carefully to what they are saying.
- Let them know they’ve done the right thing by telling you.
- Do not promise to keep it a secret.
- Stay calm but express your concern for them and convey that you are taking what they are saying seriously.
- Be kind, caring and friendly.
- Reflect to them what you are hearing them say, and the feelings being expressed. Do not ask ‘leading’ questions or become an investigator.
- Be non-judgemental and tell them it’s not their fault and they are not to blame in any way.
- Do tell them they are not alone, that many women and children experience domestic abuse.
- Explain what you’ll do next, ensuring the child’s views are sought on what is safe for them and their family.
- Follow your establishments safeguarding and child protection procedures as soon as possible.
- Reassure the child that there are places and people that can help.
- Let the child know that you will keep them informed at every stage about what you and your establishment are doing, in consultation with them about the safest way to do this.
- Do not confront the alleged abuser. This could be dangerous for the non-abusive parent and .
