{"id":349,"date":"2020-01-28T11:39:43","date_gmt":"2020-01-28T11:39:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.glowscotland.org.uk\/er\/healthierminds\/?page_id=349"},"modified":"2024-08-06T13:00:25","modified_gmt":"2024-08-06T13:00:25","slug":"helping-your-child-to-challenge-unhelpful-thoughts","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/blogs.glowscotland.org.uk\/er\/healthierminds\/parents-carers\/helping-your-child-to-challenge-unhelpful-thoughts\/","title":{"rendered":"Helping Your Child to Challenge Unhelpful Thoughts"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #000080\">Remember, although many of our thoughts occur outside our control, they are just thoughts, sometimes without any real basis, and are not necessarily facts. Even although we may believe a lot of our unhelpful thoughts when we are feeling stressed, it is good to remember that they should be questioned as they are often based on wrong assumptions. 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Being able to change their unhelpful thoughts can therefore be a good coping strategy and stop young people feeling as anxious.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Remember, although many of our thoughts occur outside our control, they are just thoughts, sometimes without any real basis, and are not necessarily facts. 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